Be Grateful, Be Patient :)

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Mari berHIJAB ♥

Hi readers.

Rainy day here at my place, from morning up till now. It stopped for a while but pours again just now. Hujan rahmat kata orang, Alhamdulillah, thank you Allah.

Anyways, my sharing for today is a special, sincere dedication to all muslimah around the globe. Let's wear HIJAB ladies!! :)

source : spreadsalam

It's freedom indeed ladies, it simply means we are free to let people see ONLY what we want them to see. "Your AURAT, your RESPONSIBILITY". ^_________^

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WW : Just Smile~

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Marriage Myths VS Reality

 Howdy peeps!
Have you read about my sharings concerning marriage previously? If you do, then this one's kinda continuation to it. If you miss it, you can read it here. This time however, instead of writing my own thoughts, I'm sharing about a very good article I've found in the net while browsing last night. It's actually about the myths versus the reality of being married. Let's read on y'all.

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Many myths that surround marriage can give you unrealistic expectations. Disappointment is sure to come if you are looking for the Cinderella-like happily-ever-after storybook marriage year after year.

Myths From Media

If you watch late night TV, enjoy classic movies, listen to love songs, or read romantic novels, then you may have an image of marriage that never, ever was. Do you remember or have you watched Father Knows Best, Leave it to Beaver, Ozzie and Harriet, Bewitched, I Love Lucy, The Honeymooners, The Donna Reed Show, Lassie, and Cinderella?

Think about the fact that nearly all of these households were the traditional family of mom, dad, and kids. They didn't seem to have any real problems because there are no story lines about prior marriages, step-children,lack of sex, chores, physical abuse, infidelity, drinking problems, drugs, dropping out of school, political discussions, civil disobedience, unemployment, severe economic problems, and threats or even thoughts of divorce.

The father was the breadwinner and the mother made the bread. Until All in the Family came along, plots seemed to focus on little white lies, mischief, and misunderstandings.

These shows may make you believe that life is always wonderful, that all of your needs can and should be met by your spouse, children are the icing on the cake, marriage will solve all your problems, and you will live happily ever after.

Marriage Myths and Realities

MYTH: Loneliness Myth that marriage will end your loneliness. 

REALITY: Many married people are still very lonely.

MYTH: Fulfillment Fallacy which makes you believe that being married makes you complete human beings. 

REALITY: A couple complements one another, not completes one another.

MYTH: Marriage is for everyone. 

REALITY: There are a lot of unmarried people who are extremely happy.

MYTH: Monogamy Myth makes you believe that you are the only couple who is dealing with infidelity or that it only happens to bad or weak people. 

REALITY: Infidelity happens to many couples.

MYTH: Romance will always be alive in a good marriage. 

REALITY: Nearly all relationships experience peaks and valleys. The everyday problems and challenges of married life can often cloud over romantic feelings. This is when making the decision to love is important.

MYTH: Marriage makes people happy. 

REALITY: You can't expect your spouse to be your one source of happiness. Your personal happiness must come from within yourself. Marriage can complement your own individual happiness but it can't be the primary source.

MYTH: You won't have major problems if you truly love one another. 

REALITY: A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes nurturing, openness, and commitment.

MYTH: My spouse should know my needs without my saying anything. 

REALITY: Just because you're married doesn't mean you can read minds. You have to tell your spouses what your needs are.

MYTH: Conflict means a lack of love. 

REALITY: Conflict happens in every marriage. Fighting fair and for the relationship, and not just to "win" is healthy in a marriage.

Tools for a Successful Marriage

Your marriage needs love, support, tolerance, communication, realistic expectations, caring, nurturing, and a sense of humor to be successful. Some television shows like Mad About You, Home Improvement, To Have and To Hold, The Cosby Show, Dharma & Greg, and Everybody Loves Raymond reflect these values and show that marriages can survive conflict, disappointment, and problems.

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15 Signs Your Man is Loyal to You :)

Salam.

Howdy peeps? Weekend's almost over but I don't really have that "Monday blues" feeling (like I always did) right now. Why? Well, simply coz tomorrow till next Thursday are the last days of work!! and I'm going for a hols with Mr.Bee next Sunday some more!! Yeyeye!!

Ok peeps, for this entry, I'm sharing another Love/ Relationship tips I've found in the net. This time it's about loyalty, the one thing I personally feel very important and regard as the core of a happy and successful relationship. I also think it's a very useful tips, especially for married couples out there. So, check it out y'all!!

*WARNING!* NO NO NO, NEVER DO THIS OK? :)

i ~ TEN Signs Your Husband is a "Keeper"

source : savvymiss.com

1. He remembered your birthday ; without strategically placed “reminder” notes. 
2. He told you that you look gorgeous in your saggy sweatpants.
3. He’s still around even when you’re in a bad mood.
4. He admits you are better at tennis/basketball/soccer/crosswords (without resentment).
5. He’s still picking you up from the airport ; and its been two years (and more).
6. He listened to your you-and-Brad-Pitt-on-a-date dream (and even got a kick out of it). 
7. He watches “Project Runway” with you and your girlfriends, and he secretly likes it.
8. He went with you to your second cousin’s wedding and asked Aunt Helga (your aunt) for a slow dance. 
9. He invited you to join his fantasy football league. Enough said.
10. He stood up for you when the a**hole at Pizza Palace wouldn’t give you your free bread sticks.

ii ~ The FIVE Signs He'll Never Cheat

source : CLEO Australia

1.He keeps dates and tells you where he’s been

If your partner is honest and respectful of you in one area of your relationship, it’s almost safe to say he’ll be the same in other areas. Dr Zita Weber, academic, counsellor and author of Unfaithfully Yours (New Holland, $26.95), feels that keeping commitments, such as dates, is a good indicator of the strength of your relationship.

“That’s a huge demonstration of respect that you don’t rescind on bargains and plans. With any sort of cancellation at the last hour, I think you’d have to worry about that person’s ability to commit to you and what you’re doing together.”

2. He introduces you to his friends

Awkward dating scenario : You’ve been seeing each other for a few months but he still makes excuses for you not to meet his pals.

While it’s possible that you’re so damn cool he’s worried his dorky friends might tarnish your opinion of him, it also could be that he’s worried his mates might reveal things he’s been up to behind your back. Meeting his gang is a sign that he’s serious and knows there’s nothing they could tell you about him that would make you any less crazy about him (except possibly that time he wet his pants in Year 3~ haha!).

3. He never cheated in past relationships

Ideally, in a monogamous relationship, you’d want both partners to be of the mindset that cheating is unacceptable. Hopefully, if he ever felt that temptation, he’d be honest enough to admit that perhaps he wanted to break up or see other people. So if he mentions he’s never strayed and finds the mere notion hard to fathom, and he seems genuine, it could indicate that he’s not a player.

That said, he could always be lying. But if a guy admits to you that past relationships have ended because of his indiscretions, be wary – it’s possible he’s telling you this so that if he does ever cheat, he can always say, “Well, I warned you!”.

4. He’s emotionally loyal to you

Being loyal isn’t just about him keeping it in his pants. It’s also about having your back in other ways. “We’ve all been in that place where you’ve really felt that this person is really committed to you,” says Weber.

“And they demonstrate that loyalty in every sort of way, such as defending you in an argument at a dinner party – even if you might be wrong. There are ways of showing people that you’re loyal to them in the emotional sense, not just the sexual sense.”

5. Your gut instinct says he’s trustworthy

It turns out instinct isn’t some sort of magical dishonesty detection system – it’s actually our subconscious picking up on real-life indicators. “People call it gut instinct, but it’s really clues around you that you’re osmotically picking up,” says Weber.

So, if you feel like you can trust him but can’t quite pinpoint why, it’s most likely because you’ve actually been subconsciously noticing all the actions he’s been doing that demonstrate he’s a committed and trustworthy guy.

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Husbands, Wives, READ!

 Salam. Happy Diwali everyone!
Last night, I've found these wonderful and useful tips in Facebook and instantly, it appeals to my interest right away. So, in case you guys haven't read, this is just another sincere sharing from me especially for wedded couples out there. (These actually serves as a self-reminder for me and Mr.Bee too~ hehe)

EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD READ THIS:

"Love her …when she sips on your coffee or tea. She only wants to make sure it tastes just right for you.
Love her…when she "pushes" you to pray. She wants to be with you in Jannah (Paradise).
Love her…when she asks you to play with the kids. She did not "make" them on her own.

Love her...when she is jealous. Out of all the men she can have, she chose YOU.
Love her…when she has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too.
Love her…when her cooking is bad. She tries.
Love her…when she looks disheveled in the morning. She always grooms herself up again.
Love her…when she asks to help with the kids homework. She only wants you to be part of the home.
Love her...when she asks if she looks fat. Your opinion counts, so tell her she's beautiful.
Love her…when she looks beautiful. She's yours so appreciate her.
Love her...when she spends hours to get ready. She only wants to look her best for you.
Love her…when she buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell her it's what you've always wanted.
Love her…when she has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help her change. 

Love her…when she cries for absolutely nothing. Don't ask, tell her its going to be okay.
Love her…when she suffers from PMS. Buy chocolate, rub her feet and back and just chat to her (trust me this works!)
Love her…when whatever you do is not pleasing. It happens and will pass.
Love her…when she stains your clothes. You needed a new garment anyway.
Love her…when she tells you how to drive. She only wants you to be safe.
Love her…when she argues. She only wants to make things right for both.
Love her…she is yours. You don't need any other special reason!!!!

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) advised concerning the woman ::
• Treat the women well.
• The best of you are those who are the best in the treatment of their wives.

EVERY WIFE SHOULD READ THIS:

"Love him …when he "forgets" that special occasion. For him every moment with you is special so he does not need an occasion.
Love him…when he comes late from the Mosque. He wants to make sure he is early with you in Jannah (Paradise).
Love him…when he admonishes you to don the hijab. He wants to be sure you enshrouded by Allah's Mercy when you leave the home.
Love him...when he is jealous. Out of all the women he could have, he chose you to be his wife!
Love him...when he is working till late. At least he comes home and you still get to sleep and wake up in his loving and caring arms.
Love him…when he has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too (and maybe more).
Love him…when he does not praise your cooking. He told you as newlyweds that yours was indeed always the best.
Love him…when he looks disheveled. He was more busy caring for the family than grooming himself. By the way he is cute!
Love him…when he does not help in the home. He is out earning a halal (pure) income for the family.
Love him...when he does not reply to your questions. He does not want to hurt your feelings or is absorbed in thinking about your welfare.
Love him…when he looks sleek and handsome. He's yours to appreciate!
Love him…when he goes out in the Path of Allah. He is preparing a blissful eternal home for you in Jannah.
Love him...when he does not comment when you get angry. He is a good listener.
Love him…when he buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell him it's what you've always wanted. He took the time and money out just for you!
Love him…when he has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help him change.
Love him…when he is irritable and moody. Buy chocolates, massage his head and feet and just chat to him. He will become your slave!
Love him…when whatever you do is not pleasing. It's like a storm; it happens and will soon pass by.
Love him…when he drives so fast. He only wants you to be there in time.
Love him…when he extends his period of rest. He is re-charging himself to serve you the best.
Love him…when he forgets to say "I love you". He actually shows his love in many other ways.
Love him…when he forgets to buy the bread or milk. He was rushing home to be with you.
Love him…when he does not give you a chance to talk. He just knows what is in your heart and what it is you want to say.
Love him…when he "demands" respect. After all he is the head of the house. 

Love him…when he shouts at the kids. He only wants to ensure they are corrected and have a good moral upbringing. 

Love him…he is yours. You don't need any other special reason!!!!
 
Almighty Allah Ta'ala says ::
" And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)…" (Qur'an 30:21)

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said:

'Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.'"(Hadith-Ibn Majah)

"If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadan), obeys her husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her: 'Enter Paradise by whichever of its gates you wish."(Hadith-Ahmad and al-Tabarani)

"Pay attention to how you treat him(husband), for he is your Paradise and your Hell."(Hadith-13 Ahmad and al-Nisa'i)

"No human being is permitted to prostrate to another, but if this were permitted I would have ordered wives to prostrate to their husbands, because of the greatness of the rights they have over them."(Hadith: Ahmad and al-Bazzar)

So fellas, don't wait for that special occasion, take time NOW to make your wife/ husband feel special in every way! Just give her/ him a HUGE WARM HUG and if she/ he asks why, then say ~

"It's just because you are so SPECIAL!" 

❤To my dearest darling BEE, I Loved You then, I Love You now & I'll Love You forever!!❤

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Wordless Wednesday : The Simple Truth

photo source : Google

As simple as that! BUT . . . . .
Soooooooooo true, right??? winks! ^_<

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