A good friend is ______________

p/s :: To all my friends, tq for everything. You guys add colours to my life. Love you all!! ^_~

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Be Grateful, Be Patient :)

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Let's Love, in the name of ALLAH ♥

Salam.

  It's another sharing for y'all, my dear readers & followers.

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A: Maaf, tumpang tanya. Lorong CINTA, jalan SAYANG, kampung RINDU, daerah KASIH SAYANG, pekan HATI, bandar I MISS U kat mane ye??

B: Cik jalan terus ikut jalan ILAHI, nampak simpang 3 masuk kanan, ikut jalan NIKAH, ada signboard I LOVE ALLAH, cik terus jea, dan sepanjang jalan tu akan nampak di sebelah kanan, kedai BATAS PERGAULAN, dan sebelah kiri pasar sibuk sket, iaitu pasar PERSIAPKAN DIRI. Haa, itu tandanya cik berada di jalan yg benar...

SEMOGA SELAMAT SAMPAI ♥

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p/s to all woman, ladies ::

Salam Muhasabah ~ ^_^

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Let's change before it's too late . . .

Hello readers. Happy Sunday!!

Let's together read about this article full of lesson, full of reminders. I found this in facebook and feel d need to share with everyone straight away. Enjoy reading! :)

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Liberal Gurlz :
“Salam ustaz…..sorry for disturbing you…I just want to ask something from you…!!”

Ustaz :
“Ok silakan……what you want to know…”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Ustaz it is true……perempuan tak menutup aurat ni jahat….?

Ustaz :
“Hmmm kalau mengikut hukum tak menutup aurat tu….memang jahat la kerana tak patuh perintah Allah.!!

Liberal Gurlz :
“No no no ustaz you ‘re really wrong……pakaian tak melambangkan perangai dan tingkahlaku….kalau ustaz nak tahu….ramai perempuan yang pakai tudung labuh nampak aje sopan…tetapi sebenarnya mereka nilah yang berperangai jahat…mereka hanya berselindung di sebalik tudung mereka…. Tu hipokrit namanya ustaz…..”

Ustaz :
“Sekurang –kurang nya mereka menutup aurat….dosa tidak menutup aurat adalah termasuk di dalam dosa besar kerana perbuatan mendedahkan aurat itu akan membuka pintu kepada zina”

Liberal gurlz :
“Ha ha ha ha ……I don’t think like that ustaz………..sebenarnya..masalah zina…rogol..sumbang mahram…..dan sebagainya yang melibatkan kerosakan akhlak kaum wanita adalah berpunca dari lelaki yang jahat dan bernafsu buas…..bukan sebab kami berpakaian tidak bertudung dan berpurdah.!!!”
“Ustaz pun tahu kan….orang lelaki ni…alim macam mana pun tapi bila tengok orang pompuan…..tercabut serban mereka……ha ha ha ha…”

Ustaz :
“Hai….macam perli saya aje ni….?”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Ha ha ha ha….ustaz tak termasuk la…..saya percaya ustaz….. kalau tak saya takkan tanya soalan ni…….ha ha ha ha……!!”

Ustaz :
“Islam mengatakan….Fitnah yang membuka pintu zina itu adalah banyaknya berpunca dari wanita yang tidak menutup aurat dan menjaga kehormatan mereka”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Habis tu ustaz…salah orang perempuan lah ye kalau…..orang perempuan diperdaya..dirogol…diragut kesuciannya oleh seorang lelaki playboy….?”

Ustaz :
"Bukan itu maksud saya…….apa yang saya nak katakana ialah…orang perempuan sekiranya tidak mendedahkan diri dengan penyebab yang menyebabkan lelaki cenderung untuk melakukan perbuatan yang jahat…maka selamatlah dirinya..dari sebarang ancaman dan gangguan seksual.”….

“Perbuatan membuka aurat itu bukankah menarik ghairah lelaki untuk melakukan sesuatu yang tak senonoh kepada seorang perempuan?”Hilangnya sifat malu seorang perempuan menyebabkan dirinya bercampur gaul dengan lelaki yang bukan mahram….menyebab terjadinya perbuatan berjumpa…berdating…berdua-duaan …..sehingga pihak yang ketiganya adalah syaitan…lalu syaitan pun membisikkan bisikan syahwat menyebabkan berlakunya perbuatan zina antara dua pasangan sejoli…!!”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Alah ustaz …itu sebab orang lelaki lah yang mulakan dulu……orang perempuan ni insan yang lemah terpaksa mengikut kehendak lelaki”

Ustaz :
“Hmmmm…itulah yang tak betul tu…..seorang wanita yang baik….mestilah tegas menjaga maruah dan kehormatan dirinya…..Allah menjadikan wanita ini dari tulang rusuk Nabi Allah Adam a.s untuk hidup mulia sebagai seorang isteri yang mempunyai tugas yang mulia iaitu sebagai peneman suami dan sebagai insan yang berkongsi suka duka bersama suami..setia berkhidmat untuk suami dengan perasaan kasih sayang yang dibina atas dasar cinta…melalui perkahwinan yang sah”

“Bukanlah kasih sayang namanya jika seorang wanita membiarkan dirinya menjadi tempat memuaskan nafsu..lelaki yang jahat….bukan cinta namanya…apabila seorang wanita membiarkan maruahnya dimusnahkan……bukanlah bahagia namanya apabila seorang wanita bersama dengn lelaki tanpa ikatan yang sah.”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Ok…ok….ustaz menang……Cuma saya nak ulangi balik ustaz pendapat saya tadi……perempuan yang bertudung pun bukannya baik sangat….ada diantara mereka ni ustaz yang lebih teruk akhlaknya daripada kami yang tidak bertudung ni….?”

Ustaz :
“Ha ha ha….janganlah disalahkan tudung jika akhlak seseorang itu buruk…..!!!....menutup aurat itu perintah Allah…sama ada manusia itu baik atau jahat…kan itu perintah Allah…kita tak boleh pertikaikan……!!”
“Jika akhlak seseorang itu jahat…..maka dia akan dikira dosanya mengikut akhlaknya yang jahat….tetapi jika dia tidak memakai tudung menutup aurat…..maka dosanya akan bertambah lagi…janganlah kita melakukan satu dosa…kemudian kita tambah lagi dosa…akibatnya derita kita di akhirat..lama kita diazab di dalam neraka…..!!”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Baiklah ustaz…mungkin tak faham maksud saya…….beginilah saya buat contoh supaya ustaz mudah faham……ada seorang wanita yang tidak menutup aurat…tetapi dia baik..rajin..pemurah ..penyayang…hormat ibubapa…..suka menolong orang…dan ada pula seorang perempuan yang bertudung…tapi jahat…suka mencaci mengata orang…..sombong…pentingkan diri sendiri…kedekut…suka cari gaduh….yang mana lebih baik ustaz……?”

Ustaz :
“Saya faham maksud awak…..oklah….tentang perempuan tidak bertudung walaupun dia..baik…buat amalan baik….pemurah…menolong orang…sememangnya dia akan mendapat pahala dengan amalan baik yang dilakukan….tetapi ingat…Nabi saw pernah menerangkan di dalam satu riwayat….bahawa diakhirat nanti apabila kita dihadapkan di hadapan Allah swt…kita akan ditanya..tentang dosa dan pahala….jika ada dosa yang kita lakukan…maka pahala kita akan dipotong….jika kita banyak melakukan amalan baik sekalipun…tetapi jika tidak menutup aurat….pahala kita akan dipotong mengikut lama mana kita mendedahkan aurat ketika di dunia ini semasa kita hidup….sehingga tiada lagi pahala yang nak dipotong..kita tanggung pula dosa orang yang rosak matanya..akhlaknya…disebabkan oleh kita yang membuka aurat….sehingga kita menjadi manusia yang paling muflis di akhirat lalu dicampakkan kita ke dalam neraka.”

“Adapun perempuan yang bertudung…dia terlepas dari dosa mendedahkan aurat…. Dan jika dia melakukan dosa yang lain…yakni seperti mencaci..mengata…sombong..dan sebagainya…maka itu dosa lain yang dia kena memohon dari Allah keampunan …agar tidak di azab diakhirat….sekiranya tidak dia akan diazab mengikut dosa yang dilakukan…..cumanya tempoh diazab itu tidaklah selama tempoh azab dosa orang yang mendedahkan aurat..kerana tempoh tinggal di neraka disebabkan oleh dosa buka aurat ni… lama sangat.”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Oh ye ke ustaz…..maaflah ustaz… saya tak pandai agama……saya cuma dengar orang bercerita…dan ada kawan-kawan saya yang menggelarkan diri mereka “ the liberal gurlz”……yang menyatakan…kalau tak boleh buang sifat-sifat……jahat dalam diri…tak guna pakai tudung labuh……munafik namanya tu……tunggulah sehingga kita benar-benar dah bersedia dan menjadi benar-benar baik….barulah kita pakai tudung tutup aurat…..”

Ustaz :
“Ha ha ha ha ha bila la agaknya tu ….baru awak jadi benar-benar baik…..bila dah masuk kubur….?”
“Satu perkara yang mesti kita ingat…dan perbetulkan persepsi kita…..berubah jadi baik dan bertaubat adalah perkara yang tak boleh ditangguh-tangguh…….berubah dan bertaubat mesti dilakukan serta merta …kerana jika kita tangguh dan tunggu dulu…..maka dikhuatiri kita tidak sempat..bertaubat dan berubah…kerana ajal maut itu tidak kita tahu bila tibanya….apakah kita boleh menjamin umur kita panjang?apakah kita boleh hidup sehingga ke detik masa kita bertaubat dan berubah……”please don’t make your life as a gambling game”jangan perjudikan hidup awak dengan hanya bersandarkan harapan yang tak pasti…..” Jika kita menyatakan kita kena tunggu sehingga dah benar-benar baik dan bersedia baru kita pakai tudung menutup aurat……maka adakah umur kita sepanjang itu untuk sampai ke detik itu????? Jika kita dimatikan Allah bagaimana?”

“Samalah macam awak tidak mahu kahwin hanya kerana awak nak tunggu calon suami yang benar-benar perfect..hensem….macho…hmmm sampai ke tua la tak kahwin jawabnya”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Hu huh u ustaz…gerun saya dengar penerangan ustaz ni…..barulah saya faham……..saya ingat apa yang dikatakn oleh kawan-kawan saya tu betul…rupa-rupanya sesat larat kita dibuatnya……!! Terima kasih ustaz…barulah saya faham….dan insyaallah saya akan berubah ….cumanya mungkin ambil masa juga ustaz….maklumlah bukan senang kita nak mulakan perubahan dan benda baru ni…..kawan-kawan saya “The liberal gurlz” pasti terkejut dan mentertawakan saya bila saya berubah memakai tudung…..aduihhhh susahnya ustaz…kalau diorang kutuk saya…mau menangis saya nanti…..”

Ustaz :
“Biarlah kita menangis di dunia ini kerana mentaati perintah Allah dari kita menangis di akhirat kerana di azab akibat mengingkari perintah Allah”

Liberal Gurlz :
“Isk…Isk…..Isk…ye lah ustaz…terima kasih….terima kasih…….saya rasa insaf sangat…..terima kasih ustaz…..semoga Allah mengampunkan dosa saya…..”

Ustaz :
“Insyaallah semoga Allah berikan awak kekuatan dan berubah dari yang baik kepada yang lebih baik……..saya akan doakan…..!!”

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MasyaAllah, Allah Maha Adil, Allah Maha Besar!! Allahuakbar!!

I too, need a change. Sy perlu menutup aurat dgn sempurna.

Ya Allah, beri saya kekuatan . . . . . 

 

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Be Thankful for being A Muslim Lady :)

Hi all. It seems that my blogging mood have flown away to a place I know not lately. 

Dunno why, I really don't have the mood to post, share or write anything at all.

I no longer feel the excitement. Oo NOOOOOOOOOOO!! :/

Anyways, to all Muslim ladies, girls & women out there, 

here's a little something to ponder ::

"Wanita hiasan dunia. Seindah hiasan adalah WANITA SOLEHAH".

 Mari kita sama² muhasabah diri ya ladies?! 

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Mari berHIJAB ♥

Hi readers.

Rainy day here at my place, from morning up till now. It stopped for a while but pours again just now. Hujan rahmat kata orang, Alhamdulillah, thank you Allah.

Anyways, my sharing for today is a special, sincere dedication to all muslimah around the globe. Let's wear HIJAB ladies!! :)

source : spreadsalam

It's freedom indeed ladies, it simply means we are free to let people see ONLY what we want them to see. "Your AURAT, your RESPONSIBILITY". ^_________^

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10 Ciri Mukmin Sejati : What's your score?

Hello bloggers, readers. It's been a while, I know. Huhuhu. 

Been so lazy to blog lately, dunno why.

While being "away" from blogging world, I was thinking, more to reflecting actually -- what's my main reason to blog, really?? Saw a few bloggers who made changes in terms of what they share in their blog, they now shared Islamic facts, reminders, tazkeerah and beautiful quotes which really touch my heart. Inspired by them, I plan to do the same with my blog. I want to reduce personal thoughts, ramblings and sharings here. Instead, I want to write and share more about Islam. 

For a start, I want to share an image I found when google-ing last time.
Here it is ::

It's 10 features which an ideal Muslim should have ::

a. Akidah yg sejahtera

b. Ibadah yg sahih

c. Akhlak yg mantap

d. Luas pengetahuan

e. Sihat tubuh badan

f. Mampu berdikari

g. Melawan nafsu

h. Sangat menjaga masa

i. Tersusun urusannya

j. Bermanfaat kepada orang lain

So can you pin point which one have you fulfilled? Or perhaps all of them? Kudos to you, if you do, you have my absolute respect. Me? I'm a weak and imperfect 'Hamba Allah', sangat kerdil dan lemah. Nevertheless, I wish to have all these 10 noble features someday and I will thrive to reach it. InsyaAllah~

♥ Jom kita muhasabah diri kawan² ♥

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Salam Maulidur Rasul 1433H : Hadis Rasulullah S.A.W ttg Akhir Zaman

First of all, salam Maulidur Rasul to all. 

Mari kita berselawat bersama² ya~ :)

Let's pay tribute to the greatest man who ever lived, Prophet Muhammad S.A.W by reading about some of his hadith concerning the "akhir zaman".

Antara Hadis Rasulullah S.A.W Tentang Akhir Zaman Ialah :

source : I Love Islam Web Blog

Penaklukan Baitulmuqaddis.

Dari Auf b. Malik r.a. Rasulullah s.a.w. telah bersabda: "Aku menghitung enam perkara menjelang hari kiamat." Baginda menyebutkan salah satu di antaranya, iaitu penaklukan Baitulmuqaddis." * Sahih Bukhari*

Zina bermaharajalela.

"Dan tinggallah manusia-manusia yang buruk, yang seenaknya melakukan persetubuhan seperti himar (keldai). Maka pada zaman mereka inilah kiamat akan datang." * Sahih Muslim*

Banyak wanita yang berpakaian tetapi hakikatnya telanjang.

"Di antara tanda-tanda telah dekatnya hari kiamat ialah akan muncul pakaian-pakaian wanita dan apabila mereka memakainya keadaannya seperti telanjang." * Abu Hurairah r.a*

Bermaharajalela alat muzik.

"Pada akhir zaman akan terjadi tanah runtuh, rusuhan dan perubahan muka. Ada yang bertanya kepada Rasulullah; "Wahai Rasulullah bila hal ini terjadi?" Baginda menjawab; "Apabila telah bermaharajalela bunyi-bunyian (muzik) dan penyanyi-penyanyi wanita" * Ibnu Majah*

Menghias masjid dan membanggakannya.

"Di antara tanda-tanda telah dekatnya kiamat ialah manusia bermegah-megahan dalam mendirikan masjid" * Riwayat Nasai.*

Munculnya kekejian, memutuskan kerabat dan hubungan dengan tetangga tidak baik.

"Tidak akan datang kiamat sehingga banyak perbuatan dan perkataan keji, memutuskan hubungan silaturahim dan sikap yang buruk dalam tetangga." * Riwayat Ahmad dan Hakim*

Ramai orang soleh meninggal dunia.

"Tidak akan datang hari kiamat sehingga Allah mengambil orang-orang yang baik dan ahli agama di muka bumi, maka tiada yang tinggal padanya kecuali orang-orang yang hina dan buruk yang tidak mengetahui yang makruf dan tidak mengingkari kemungkaran." * Riwayat Ahmad*

Orang hina mendapat kedudukan terhormat.

"Di antara tanda-tanda semakin dekatnya kiamat ialah dunia akan dikuasai oleh Luka' bin Luka' (orang yang bodoh dan hina). Maka orang yang paling baik ketika itu ialah orang yang beriman yang diapit oleh dua orang mulia" * Riwayat Thabrani*

Mengucapkan salam kepada orang yang dikenalnya sahaja.

"Sesungguhnya di antara tanda-tanda telah dekatnya hari kiamat ialah manusia tidak mahu mengucapkan salam kepada orang lain kecuali yang dikenalnya saja." * Riwayat Ahmad*

Bulan sabit kelihatan besar.

"Di antara tanda-tanda telah dekatnya hari kiamat ialah menggelembung (membesarnya) bulan sabit." * Riwayat Thabrani*

Banyak dusta dan tidak tepat dalam menyampaikan berita.

"Pada akhir zaman akan muncul pembohong- pembohong besar yang datang kepadamu dengan membawa berita-berita yang belum pernah kamu dengar dan belum pernah didengar oleh bapa-bapa kamu sebelumnya, kerana itu jauhkanlah dirimu dari mereka agar mereka tidak menyesatkanmu dan memfitnahmu" * Sahih Muslim*

Banyak saksi palsu dan menyimpan kesaksian yang benar.

"Sesungguhnya sebelum datangnya hari kiamat akan banyak kesaksian palsu dan disembunyikan kesaksian yang benar" * Riwayat Ahmad*

Negara Arab menjadi padang rumput dan sungai.

"Tidak akan datang hari kiamat sehingga negeri Arab kembali menjadi padang rumput dan sungai* Sahih Muslim*

 

The truth is, all the signs as told by Nabi Muhammad S.A.W above are already happening. The latest was the snow that fell at Dubai (BH, 31 Dis 2004). With that being said, let's reflect on ourselves, our deeds in this temporary world, our preparation for the eternal world, the hereafter. Allah has remind us in so many ways, it's all up to us!
Renung²kn~ ^_^

p/s : blog header & button berubah lagi, amacam? ada ok?? 

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Mobile Phone Talk : is yours an original piece??

Hi readers.
Perhaps all of you are already aware of this method, but just in case any of you didn't know about it just yet, here's how you can check the originality of your hand phones :

# Pls note that I took this from my facebook news feed, it's not my own #

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Untuk mengetahui status keaslian buatan telefon bimbit anda :

1. sila taip *#06# & akan keluar IMEI [International Mobile Equipment Identity]

2. semak nombor IMEI telefon anda di kedudukan 7 dan 8

... Contoh : 358671017470473
... Kedudukan ke 7 dan 8 ialah 01

00 atau 03 atau 04: dari kilang asal = SANGAT TERBAIK!!

01 atau 10: dari Finland = TERBAIK
08 atau 80: dari Germany = KUALITI SEDERHANA
02 atau 20 : dari China = KUALITI RENDAH

13 : dari Azerbaijan = SANGAT KURANG KUALITI & MERBAHAYA

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I've checked mine and thankfully, it's of the BEST quality!! Syukur, kalau tidak, I surely will go to the store where I purchased it and ran "amok"! Mau tidak mengamuk, mahal ba I bought that phone. Da la I used all my savings and bonus just to buy that dreamed mobile phone of mine. Heeeeeeeeeeee~ 

So, apa tunggu lagi, go ahead and check yours! 
It's important. It's our right as a consumer. Good luck peeps! :D

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Long distance wifey / hubby?

Hello dear readers. Are you married? Just married? Going to be married? Or plan to be married? Hehehe, my entry today is all about being married, that's why the word "married" is everywhere ok. :)

"Absence makes the heart grows fonder"

Ever heard of the saying above? Holding on to that mantra but beginning to have some doubts? You're not alone. I am blissfully married to the man I love last year but unfortunately, miles and distance separates us. We've been living in separate cities ever since we tied the knot due to our career demands up till now. Poor us! :( hopefully this year we'll be able to live together like other married couple and start building our family. Amin~

Looking back, after being a long distance wifey for 6 months, I believe there are some pros & cons of being in my "shoe". Here they are ::

#please kindly note that all I'm writing here are based on my own personal experience & opinion#

Pros ::

• you gonna get that excitement every time you are going to see him/ her (yala, da bejauh lama kan, mestila rindu gila & excited to meet your love one, am i right? heeeeeee~)

• you'll appreciate him/ her and the time you two spend together much more than you ever have before

• you want to do everything for him/ her (yup, everything!), even the small little things you think you won't do for anyone you see everyday like cutting his or her nails ;p
 • you get to make a lovely surprise like sending a sweet gift or card via postage without him/ her knowing (actually yg ni if tinggal bersama pun msh bleh buat, kan? heheee)

Cons ::

• you get tired of being apart for so long till you two argue over everything/ nothing!

• you are not that aware of his/ her current needs or likes. you miss out certain little details that he/ she had developed over time.

• you tend to do things on your own and get so used to it sampai tak sedar that you have put him/ her aside and made him/ her feel like you don't really need him/ her at all

• you can't attend to him/ her when he/ she is sick, injured or just had a bad day at work (you can't take care of her, suapkan ubat utk dia, urut kepala dia or pujuk dia). you only got to call or sms him/ her ~ ni yg plg sedih, above all! huhuhu :(

How to make it work?? (taken from various sources - internet articles)

In all seriousness, it is never easy to deal with being separated from someone that you truly love. Thankfully, there are ways you can deal with problems with being far apart from a paramour.

1. Don’t try to communicate too much. You should keep communication to more reasonable levels.
2. You and your partner need to establish some level of ground rules in how the relationship will progress while far apart.
3. You will need to trust your other half. On the flipside, the other party is going to need to raise his/her level of trust significantly as well. If not then the entire relationship could devolve into mistrust, distrust, and jealously. What would be the value in that?
4. Don't let the distance undermine your bond with your spouse. Distance should be defied and considered as a test to make the bond stronger. You are not alone. Millions and millions of people all around the world find it no problem. They survive it on a daily basis. And so can you!
5. Facing up to the challenge ; just think of it as a challenge. There’s a certain advantage to being miles away from your loved ones. Couples who got the advantage of meeting up with one another frequently somewhat fail to count their blessings after some time. But in your case, you have every reason to defy distance, to keep the connection alive, and to look forward to seeing each other like it’s the most important thing in the world!
   

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The Greatest Love Story of All Time

Hi readers! Gong Xi Fa Chai to all! 

It's the beginning of the dragon year today, the best year of all in the lunar calendar. Have a prosperous and joyous chinese new year folks! :D

~ el oh vie ee ~

Speaking of new year, what's your resolution? Pursuing love, maybe? Hehehe. Love is indeed a wonderful thing and the greatest creation of the Almighty. It is a magical feeling that could make or break people. It can lead to either a happy or miserable life. So, just as a quick reminder for us, and for me also, I want to share a love story which I regard as the perfect story that embodies all the essence of what love should be about :: 

Kisah cinta Nabi Allah Yusuf AS dan Zulaikha 
~ a love story at its absolute finest!

Mungkin ramai di antara kita yang mengetahui kisah kekacakan Nabi Yusuf (AS) sehinggakan Zulaikha, ibu angkatnya sendiri jatuh cinta padanya.

Nabi Yusuf (AS) disumbatkan ke dalam penjara setelah Al Aziz, pembesar Mesir pada masa itu yang juga merupakan suami Zulaikha tidak tahu apa yang patut dilakukannya setelah peristiwa Zulaikha cuba menggoda Nabi Yusuf (AS) dan menarik baju yang dipakainya hingga terkoyak di belakang. Namun dengan izin Allah, seorang bayi yang kebetulan ada di situ berkata-kata dan membersihkan nama Nabi Yusuf (AS) yang suci. Selepas peristiwa itu, Zulaikha menjadi gila kerana tidak dapat menahan rasa cintanya pada Nabi Yusuf (AS) hingga Al Aziz terpaksa melepaskannya.

Setelah 12 tahun berlalu, Nabi Yusuf (AS) dibebaskan dari penjara dan akhirnya beliau diangkat menjadi raja. Hinggalah pada suatu hari, sewaktu Nabi Yusuf (AS) berjalan-jalan di pasar, beliau terjumpa seorang perempuan tua yang gila dan asyik menyebut-nyebut namanya. Rupa-rupanya, perempuan itu ialah Zulaikha. Dengan izin Allah, Zulaikha menjadi muda kembali hasil mukjizat Nabi Yusuf (AS), dan mereka berkahwin.

"Pada hari ini Aku telah sempurnakan bagi kamu agama kamu dan telah Aku cukupkan untuk kamu nikmatKu serta telah Aku redha Islam sebagai agama kamu."
(surah Al-Maida: 3)

Setelah peristiwa itu, Zulaikha menemui cinta yang lebih abadi, Zulaikha kini benar-benar bersyukur kerana Allah SWT yang Maha Pengasih dan Penyayang telah memberikan peluang kedua padanya. Cinta Zulaikha kepada Nabi Yusuf (AS) telah luput, digantikan dengan cinta makhluk terhadap Pencipta-Nya. Masanya dihabiskan dengan bermunajat kepada Allah hingga beliau tidak mempedulikan Nabi Yusuf (AS) sendiri yang suatu waktu dulu digilainya.

Mengikut ceritanya, Nabi Yusuf (AS) telah menarik baju Zulaikha yang asyik beribadat. Peristiwa ini bolehlah diumpamakan sebagai qisas kerana dahulu Zulaikha telah menarik baju Nabi Yusuf (AS). Yusuf kemudian memberitahu Zulaikha bahawa dari mereka akan lahir nabi-nabi yang akan membawa kebenaran.

Melihat pada peristiwa ini, nyatalah cinta sesama makhluk tidak akan kekal, apatah lagi kalau cinta itu dilandaskan kepada nafsu semata-mata. Cinta Shah Jehan kepada Mumtaz Mahal terabdi bersama berdiri megahnya Taj Mahal, namun sedarkah kita bahawa pembinaan Taj Mahal telah menyebabkan tangan pengukir-pengukir yang handal dipotong semata-mata kerana Shah Jehan tidak mahu ada bangunan lain di dunia ini yang dapat menandingi kecantikan Taj Mahal!!

Kita haruslah sedar bahawa cinta sesama makhluk hanyalah sementara, oleh itu adalah lebih baik sekiranya kita tak terbawa-bawa oleh arus cinta, bermain dengan ombak perasaan dan akhirnya karam sendiri bila cinta yang diharap-harapkan tidak kesampaian . . .
Renung-renungkan ~~~

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My New ShoutBox (free)

Waaa, it's Thursday already and the hols are coming to an end. Huhuhu~

Da sebulan lebih di sisi suami, rasa sekejap jak masa b'lalu, I dunno how I'm gonna cope and adapt with his "absence" starting next week. Will be going back to our hometown next Tuesday and I'm already feeling the sadness to leave. I'll be crying like a baby at the airport for sure! Huhuhu, hate that feeling and hate to experience it again! :( ::::::::::::::::::::::

Anyways, don't want to think about that sadness for the time being, so I just want to let y'all know that I've installed a new shoutbox for my blog. If you've scrolled down, you'll see lah, kan? I think you're well informed that ShoutMix is ending their free service starting January 1, 2012, right, so want it or not, I have to find a new one. And I did! I registered and got my new shoutbox from ShootBox. If you want one, just click the link I've provided and follow the simple and easy instructions on their website. Like other shoutbox, you can choose whether to get the free one or the paid one, suit yourself. Out of the many options on the net, I've picked ShootBox because I think it's simple yet attractive. Plus, it's user friendly too. You can customize your shoutbox according to your preference. 

So how to use it? It's absolutely easy peasy!

1. Just enter a username (must be alphanumeric --> a combination of letters and numbers) and click "shoot!".
2. Then, enter your messages in the same empty box that appeared after you've login and click "shoot!" again and you're done!

So simple, right?? There's no need for you to enter your website or url. It also got some smileys for you to choose from. Plus, you can customize the colour of your message font and background to make it pop out more that others' message. You even get to make your font "bold" and/or "italic". Hehehe. So don't forget to leave a word or two on my new shoutbox ya! 

Till my next post! Au revoir!

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Marriage Myths VS Reality

 Howdy peeps!
Have you read about my sharings concerning marriage previously? If you do, then this one's kinda continuation to it. If you miss it, you can read it here. This time however, instead of writing my own thoughts, I'm sharing about a very good article I've found in the net while browsing last night. It's actually about the myths versus the reality of being married. Let's read on y'all.

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Many myths that surround marriage can give you unrealistic expectations. Disappointment is sure to come if you are looking for the Cinderella-like happily-ever-after storybook marriage year after year.

Myths From Media

If you watch late night TV, enjoy classic movies, listen to love songs, or read romantic novels, then you may have an image of marriage that never, ever was. Do you remember or have you watched Father Knows Best, Leave it to Beaver, Ozzie and Harriet, Bewitched, I Love Lucy, The Honeymooners, The Donna Reed Show, Lassie, and Cinderella?

Think about the fact that nearly all of these households were the traditional family of mom, dad, and kids. They didn't seem to have any real problems because there are no story lines about prior marriages, step-children,lack of sex, chores, physical abuse, infidelity, drinking problems, drugs, dropping out of school, political discussions, civil disobedience, unemployment, severe economic problems, and threats or even thoughts of divorce.

The father was the breadwinner and the mother made the bread. Until All in the Family came along, plots seemed to focus on little white lies, mischief, and misunderstandings.

These shows may make you believe that life is always wonderful, that all of your needs can and should be met by your spouse, children are the icing on the cake, marriage will solve all your problems, and you will live happily ever after.

Marriage Myths and Realities

MYTH: Loneliness Myth that marriage will end your loneliness. 

REALITY: Many married people are still very lonely.

MYTH: Fulfillment Fallacy which makes you believe that being married makes you complete human beings. 

REALITY: A couple complements one another, not completes one another.

MYTH: Marriage is for everyone. 

REALITY: There are a lot of unmarried people who are extremely happy.

MYTH: Monogamy Myth makes you believe that you are the only couple who is dealing with infidelity or that it only happens to bad or weak people. 

REALITY: Infidelity happens to many couples.

MYTH: Romance will always be alive in a good marriage. 

REALITY: Nearly all relationships experience peaks and valleys. The everyday problems and challenges of married life can often cloud over romantic feelings. This is when making the decision to love is important.

MYTH: Marriage makes people happy. 

REALITY: You can't expect your spouse to be your one source of happiness. Your personal happiness must come from within yourself. Marriage can complement your own individual happiness but it can't be the primary source.

MYTH: You won't have major problems if you truly love one another. 

REALITY: A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes nurturing, openness, and commitment.

MYTH: My spouse should know my needs without my saying anything. 

REALITY: Just because you're married doesn't mean you can read minds. You have to tell your spouses what your needs are.

MYTH: Conflict means a lack of love. 

REALITY: Conflict happens in every marriage. Fighting fair and for the relationship, and not just to "win" is healthy in a marriage.

Tools for a Successful Marriage

Your marriage needs love, support, tolerance, communication, realistic expectations, caring, nurturing, and a sense of humor to be successful. Some television shows like Mad About You, Home Improvement, To Have and To Hold, The Cosby Show, Dharma & Greg, and Everybody Loves Raymond reflect these values and show that marriages can survive conflict, disappointment, and problems.

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Marriage Life : The Way I Feel About It~ (so far)

Happy Monday peeps! How are ya doing?

It's laundry day for me today, besa la, sejak naik pangkat jadi "wifey" ni, lagi2 skang tgh cuti, so jadi full time housewife la. Hehehe.

so true!

Orait, back to the title of my post, I actually wanted to share my view and a little bit of my personal experience about the issue today. Dunno why, this thing keeps wandering around my head lately. Before I get married, I always heard people said that life seems a bed of roses for newlyweds. Well, since I've already experienced it myself, I'd say 'YES' indeed! ^_^

But, yeap, (there's a 'but' ok) I think maybe the all-happy-and-beautiful moments lasts at least for the first two months up to 4 months, top. Why? Coz in the 5th months, reality strikes back in where couples "discover" the total package of their spouse - the good, the bad & the ugly. Okay, let me come clean about this. I'm actually still "adjusting" myself to "compromise" his "package" (even after being married for 147 days). When you're in a relationship for quite sometime, you "think" you know your guy but right after getting married, you'll realize you actually know "nothing" (not necessarily nothing la, but maybe only 20%) about the man you married. Yala, before this maybe you think you know his "habit", things he like and dislike, his favourite food, etc, BUT when you're married, living under the same roof, sharing the same room, like it or not, you'll see things you don't "prefer". So how do you cope with this?? For me, so far, me and husband try our best (still trying -- I believe this should be continuous & never stops) to always practice "give-and-take" act in whatever situation that we're in. We often try to find a middle ground especially when making decisions. We did fight and argue sometimes but eversince we got married, we always make sure the arguments won't involve yelling or saying hurtful words to each other. 

As a whole, I'm a strong believer of the saying "no one's perfect", so no matter what the situation is, we should always remember that. It will ease out our mind and soul. In marriage, it takes two to make it work. We should learn to accept our other half the way he/ she is rather than trying to change him/ her into someone we want him/ her to be. Of course we want a "perfect" husband for us, right? and I think that's not wrong as long as it doesn't "suffocate" our spouse. We must be honest with each other and always try to compromise things. Don't be selfish. Also, avoid negative-thinking, always view things positively, insyaAllah, with Allah's grant and blessings, life will somehow become a "heaven" for both you and husband/ wife and future kids. Mudah-mudahan~ 

p/s ~ You all can read 1 absolutely good article regarding marriage here ::

The Reality of Married Life

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# Movie Review : Tower Heist (2011)

Elo elo elo! Happy Thursday everyone!!

So last night was our movie date night with Mr.Bee (❤‿❤)

We were actually torn whether to watch Tower Heist or Seeking Justice. We've read about the plot synopsis earlier on that night and eventually we picked the crime, adventure and comedy film, Tower Heist. 

Here are a little bit info about the movie ::

Directed By : Brett Ratner
Starring : Ben Stiller, Eddie Murphy, Casey Affleck, Matthew Broderick, Alan Alda, Michael Pena, Gabourey Sidibe, Stephen McKinley Henderson, Tea Leoni

Genre : Action, adventure, comedy, crime

Release Year : 2011
MPAA Rating : PG-13
Plot Summary : Ben Stiller and Eddie Murphy lead an all-star cast in Tower Heist, a comedy caper about working stiffs who seek revenge on the Wall Street swindler who stiffed them. After the workers at a luxury Central Park condominium discover the penthouse billionaire has stolen their retirement, they plot the ultimate revenge: a heist (a robbery) to reclaim what he took from them.

My review : I enjoyed the movie right from the start till the end. The jokes are quite "clean" therefore made it a very entertaining movie to watch. Me and Mr.Bee❤ were laughing most of the time along with other audiences in the cinema hall. I personally like the character of Mr. Fitzhugh (Matthew Broderick) & Enrique Dev'Reaux (Michael Pena). They were hillarious!! And of course the renowned comedy actor Ben Stiller as Josh Kovaks and Eddie Murphy as Slide. They had us rolling in the aisles. LOL! Plus, Casey Affleck's role as the somewhat naive and nerdy Charlie also adds up to the humorous scenes in the film. All and all, I give 5 stars for this comedic film and to anyone who haven't watch it, go now!! You won't regret it!! You'll surely laugh your way out from the cinema. Trust me, this movie worth every penny!! Hehehe. ^_^

Next movies to watch ~ The Twilight Saga : Breaking Dawn Part I & Ombak Rindu ;p

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15 Signs Your Man is Loyal to You :)

Salam.

Howdy peeps? Weekend's almost over but I don't really have that "Monday blues" feeling (like I always did) right now. Why? Well, simply coz tomorrow till next Thursday are the last days of work!! and I'm going for a hols with Mr.Bee next Sunday some more!! Yeyeye!!

Ok peeps, for this entry, I'm sharing another Love/ Relationship tips I've found in the net. This time it's about loyalty, the one thing I personally feel very important and regard as the core of a happy and successful relationship. I also think it's a very useful tips, especially for married couples out there. So, check it out y'all!!

*WARNING!* NO NO NO, NEVER DO THIS OK? :)

i ~ TEN Signs Your Husband is a "Keeper"

source : savvymiss.com

1. He remembered your birthday ; without strategically placed “reminder” notes. 
2. He told you that you look gorgeous in your saggy sweatpants.
3. He’s still around even when you’re in a bad mood.
4. He admits you are better at tennis/basketball/soccer/crosswords (without resentment).
5. He’s still picking you up from the airport ; and its been two years (and more).
6. He listened to your you-and-Brad-Pitt-on-a-date dream (and even got a kick out of it). 
7. He watches “Project Runway” with you and your girlfriends, and he secretly likes it.
8. He went with you to your second cousin’s wedding and asked Aunt Helga (your aunt) for a slow dance. 
9. He invited you to join his fantasy football league. Enough said.
10. He stood up for you when the a**hole at Pizza Palace wouldn’t give you your free bread sticks.

ii ~ The FIVE Signs He'll Never Cheat

source : CLEO Australia

1.He keeps dates and tells you where he’s been

If your partner is honest and respectful of you in one area of your relationship, it’s almost safe to say he’ll be the same in other areas. Dr Zita Weber, academic, counsellor and author of Unfaithfully Yours (New Holland, $26.95), feels that keeping commitments, such as dates, is a good indicator of the strength of your relationship.

“That’s a huge demonstration of respect that you don’t rescind on bargains and plans. With any sort of cancellation at the last hour, I think you’d have to worry about that person’s ability to commit to you and what you’re doing together.”

2. He introduces you to his friends

Awkward dating scenario : You’ve been seeing each other for a few months but he still makes excuses for you not to meet his pals.

While it’s possible that you’re so damn cool he’s worried his dorky friends might tarnish your opinion of him, it also could be that he’s worried his mates might reveal things he’s been up to behind your back. Meeting his gang is a sign that he’s serious and knows there’s nothing they could tell you about him that would make you any less crazy about him (except possibly that time he wet his pants in Year 3~ haha!).

3. He never cheated in past relationships

Ideally, in a monogamous relationship, you’d want both partners to be of the mindset that cheating is unacceptable. Hopefully, if he ever felt that temptation, he’d be honest enough to admit that perhaps he wanted to break up or see other people. So if he mentions he’s never strayed and finds the mere notion hard to fathom, and he seems genuine, it could indicate that he’s not a player.

That said, he could always be lying. But if a guy admits to you that past relationships have ended because of his indiscretions, be wary – it’s possible he’s telling you this so that if he does ever cheat, he can always say, “Well, I warned you!”.

4. He’s emotionally loyal to you

Being loyal isn’t just about him keeping it in his pants. It’s also about having your back in other ways. “We’ve all been in that place where you’ve really felt that this person is really committed to you,” says Weber.

“And they demonstrate that loyalty in every sort of way, such as defending you in an argument at a dinner party – even if you might be wrong. There are ways of showing people that you’re loyal to them in the emotional sense, not just the sexual sense.”

5. Your gut instinct says he’s trustworthy

It turns out instinct isn’t some sort of magical dishonesty detection system – it’s actually our subconscious picking up on real-life indicators. “People call it gut instinct, but it’s really clues around you that you’re osmotically picking up,” says Weber.

So, if you feel like you can trust him but can’t quite pinpoint why, it’s most likely because you’ve actually been subconsciously noticing all the actions he’s been doing that demonstrate he’s a committed and trustworthy guy.

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Husbands, Wives, READ!

 Salam. Happy Diwali everyone!
Last night, I've found these wonderful and useful tips in Facebook and instantly, it appeals to my interest right away. So, in case you guys haven't read, this is just another sincere sharing from me especially for wedded couples out there. (These actually serves as a self-reminder for me and Mr.Bee too~ hehe)

EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD READ THIS:

"Love her …when she sips on your coffee or tea. She only wants to make sure it tastes just right for you.
Love her…when she "pushes" you to pray. She wants to be with you in Jannah (Paradise).
Love her…when she asks you to play with the kids. She did not "make" them on her own.

Love her...when she is jealous. Out of all the men she can have, she chose YOU.
Love her…when she has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too.
Love her…when her cooking is bad. She tries.
Love her…when she looks disheveled in the morning. She always grooms herself up again.
Love her…when she asks to help with the kids homework. She only wants you to be part of the home.
Love her...when she asks if she looks fat. Your opinion counts, so tell her she's beautiful.
Love her…when she looks beautiful. She's yours so appreciate her.
Love her...when she spends hours to get ready. She only wants to look her best for you.
Love her…when she buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell her it's what you've always wanted.
Love her…when she has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help her change. 

Love her…when she cries for absolutely nothing. Don't ask, tell her its going to be okay.
Love her…when she suffers from PMS. Buy chocolate, rub her feet and back and just chat to her (trust me this works!)
Love her…when whatever you do is not pleasing. It happens and will pass.
Love her…when she stains your clothes. You needed a new garment anyway.
Love her…when she tells you how to drive. She only wants you to be safe.
Love her…when she argues. She only wants to make things right for both.
Love her…she is yours. You don't need any other special reason!!!!

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) advised concerning the woman ::
• Treat the women well.
• The best of you are those who are the best in the treatment of their wives.

EVERY WIFE SHOULD READ THIS:

"Love him …when he "forgets" that special occasion. For him every moment with you is special so he does not need an occasion.
Love him…when he comes late from the Mosque. He wants to make sure he is early with you in Jannah (Paradise).
Love him…when he admonishes you to don the hijab. He wants to be sure you enshrouded by Allah's Mercy when you leave the home.
Love him...when he is jealous. Out of all the women he could have, he chose you to be his wife!
Love him...when he is working till late. At least he comes home and you still get to sleep and wake up in his loving and caring arms.
Love him…when he has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too (and maybe more).
Love him…when he does not praise your cooking. He told you as newlyweds that yours was indeed always the best.
Love him…when he looks disheveled. He was more busy caring for the family than grooming himself. By the way he is cute!
Love him…when he does not help in the home. He is out earning a halal (pure) income for the family.
Love him...when he does not reply to your questions. He does not want to hurt your feelings or is absorbed in thinking about your welfare.
Love him…when he looks sleek and handsome. He's yours to appreciate!
Love him…when he goes out in the Path of Allah. He is preparing a blissful eternal home for you in Jannah.
Love him...when he does not comment when you get angry. He is a good listener.
Love him…when he buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell him it's what you've always wanted. He took the time and money out just for you!
Love him…when he has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help him change.
Love him…when he is irritable and moody. Buy chocolates, massage his head and feet and just chat to him. He will become your slave!
Love him…when whatever you do is not pleasing. It's like a storm; it happens and will soon pass by.
Love him…when he drives so fast. He only wants you to be there in time.
Love him…when he extends his period of rest. He is re-charging himself to serve you the best.
Love him…when he forgets to say "I love you". He actually shows his love in many other ways.
Love him…when he forgets to buy the bread or milk. He was rushing home to be with you.
Love him…when he does not give you a chance to talk. He just knows what is in your heart and what it is you want to say.
Love him…when he "demands" respect. After all he is the head of the house. 

Love him…when he shouts at the kids. He only wants to ensure they are corrected and have a good moral upbringing. 

Love him…he is yours. You don't need any other special reason!!!!
 
Almighty Allah Ta'ala says ::
" And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)…" (Qur'an 30:21)

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said:

'Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.'"(Hadith-Ibn Majah)

"If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadan), obeys her husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her: 'Enter Paradise by whichever of its gates you wish."(Hadith-Ahmad and al-Tabarani)

"Pay attention to how you treat him(husband), for he is your Paradise and your Hell."(Hadith-13 Ahmad and al-Nisa'i)

"No human being is permitted to prostrate to another, but if this were permitted I would have ordered wives to prostrate to their husbands, because of the greatness of the rights they have over them."(Hadith: Ahmad and al-Bazzar)

So fellas, don't wait for that special occasion, take time NOW to make your wife/ husband feel special in every way! Just give her/ him a HUGE WARM HUG and if she/ he asks why, then say ~

"It's just because you are so SPECIAL!" 

❤To my dearest darling BEE, I Loved You then, I Love You now & I'll Love You forever!!❤

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Rara Zikry : my prayer is with you~

Salam. 

It's Sunday and I'm doing nothing but relaxing at the comfort of my home sweet home. Then, while watching TV, I came across a slot in Nona TV3 this afternoon which airs a coverage about a young, beautiful lady whose life is flipped 360 degree after a truly unexpected tragedy last year. Who is she? Here is a little info about her :

photo source : Google

Name : Zarith Nadhira Binti Mohamad Zikri (also known as Rara Zikry)

DOB : 4 October 1988 (she just turned 23 this month)

An interior design student at Limkokwing University of Creative Technology

Facebook : Rara Zikry

So what happened to her? On 19th March 2010, Rara and her friends went cycling somewhere near the Shah Alam court. Out of sudden, she was seen having difficulty to breathe. Her friends thought she was attacked by her asthma, as they all know that she did has an asthma. She then told her friends to bring her to the hospital. While on the way there (in the car), Rara was still able to talk to her friends but suddenly she was silent and foams started coming out of her mouth. When they arrived at the hospital, the doctor told Rara's friends that she was in the state of coma. It was shocking! Br jak td dia ketawa2 dgn her friends then suddenly jatuh koma. MasyaAllah, hebatnya kuasa Allah.

After a few months, she was conscious but sadly, she was not the same Rara anymore. She was diagnosed with an illness called Hypoxic Encephalophaty or a condition named Brain Disorder due to Less of Oxygen. It is a condition in which brain tissue is deprived of oxygen and there is global loss of function. The longer brain cells lack oxygen, the more damage occurs. Rara was cut off from any oxygen for about 7 minutes, right after she fainted causing her to be under state of coma.

photo source : facebook page

Frankly speaking, I feel very touched after seeing her on TV and reading her stories in the internet. Berat betul dugaan yg dia terima kn? Tp in a way, I perceive her story as a valuable lesson to be learned from. Her story reminds me that everything that we are and we have in life are just a "loan" from God. Semuanya milik Allah. So we have to learn to be grateful and accept everything given to us. Tiada yg kekal dan pasti, hanya Allah maha mengetahui. 

To dear Rara and family, be strong. May you get well soon. Never gives up on Allah because only Allah knows what's best for us.

To us, fellow human being, remember, this can happen to anyone so there is no need to judge. May Allah reward Rara immensely for the suffering that she is going through right now. Amin.

p/s ; if you want to lend a hand, click :

Contribution for Rara Zikry's medical expenses.

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Are we an ideal muslim wife? :)

The Ideal Muslim Woman and Her Husband

(An Excerpt from the Book “The Ideal Muslimah: The True Islâmic Personality of the Muslim Woman as Defined in the Qur’ân and Sunnah”)  

By  Dr. Muhammad ‘Ali Al-Hashimi

Translated by Nasiruddin Al-Khattab and Revised by Ibrahim M. Kunna and Abu  Aya Sulaiman Abdus-Sabur Copyright and published by the International Islâmic Publishing House (IIPH), Riyadh, Saudi Arabia in 1999.

Marriage in Islam

In Islam, marriage is a blessed contract between a man and a woman, in which each becomes “permitted” to the other, and they begin the long journey of life in a spirit of love, co-operation, harmony and tolerance, where each feels at ease with the other, and finds tranquility, contentment and comfort in the company of the other. The Qur’an has described this relationship between men and women, which brings love, harmony, trust and compassion, in the most moving and eloquent terms:

(And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts] . . .) (Qur’an 30:21)  

This is the strongest of bonds, in which Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) unites the two Muslim partners, who come together on the basis of love, understanding, co-operation and mutual advice, and establish a Muslim family in which children will live and grow up, and they will develop the good character and behavior taught by Islam. The Muslim family is the strongest component of a Muslim society when its members are productive and constructive, helping and encouraging one another to be good and righteous, and competing with one another in good works. The righteous woman is the pillar, cornerstone and foundation of the Muslim family. She is seen as the greatest joy in a man’s life, as the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:

“This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this world is a righteous women.”¹ 

A righteous woman is the greatest blessing that Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) can give to a man, for with her he can find comfort and rest after the exhausting struggle of earning a living. With his wife, he can find incomparable tranquility and pleasure.

How can a woman be the best comfort in this world? How can she be a successful woman, true to her own femininity, and honored and loved?

1. She chooses a good husband 
2. She is obedient to her husband and shows him respect 
3. She treats his mother and family with kindness and respect 
4. She endears herself to her husband and is keen to please him
5. She does not disclose his secrets
She stands by him and offers her advice
6. She encourages her husband to spend for the sake of Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala
7. She helps him to obey Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) 
8. She fills his heart with joy
9. She makes herself beautiful for him 
10. She is cheerful and grateful when she meets him 
11. She shares his joys and sorrows 
12. She does not look at other men 
13. She does not describe other women to him 
14. She tries to create an atmosphere of peace and tranquility for him 
15. She is tolerant and forgiving 
16. She is strong in character and wise 
17. She is one of the most successful wives, if not the most successful wife she is the greatest blessing and good fortune that a man may enjoy

To read more elaboration, refer here. FYI, that page was where I found and read the entire article and decided to share it with you guys. Hopefully y'all find it useful the way I do, especially to Ex-B2B and also B2B bloggers out there. May we all become an ideal wife to our dearest husband. Amin~ :)

11 July 2011 : I'm officially his wife! Alhamdulillah~ :)

Alrighty, that's all for now. Nite peeps! 

Gotta sign off now. Got another invigilating duty tomorrow.

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